The Wedding Party
You are getting married! Congratulations. There are many, many plans to make, and of course, you need to choose your wedding party. Who will be the best man? Who will be the matron of honor? Whose feelings are about to get badly hurt?
Choosing the wedding party can be very excruciating for both the bride and the groom. Ideally, the groom would choose his best friend, his brother, or his father as the best man. Either of these choices would be fine will all involved. However, for the bride it is usually much more difficult.
The bride usually chooses her best married friend as the matron of honor…but which ones consider themselves to be the brides best friend? The chances are good that when you attend the wedding, every bridesmaid you see considers herself to be the brides best friend.
It almost never fails. Somebody’s feelings will be hurt when the bride and groom announce who will be in the wedding party. You can’t allow this to force you to make selections that you would not have made otherwise.
It is important to realize that this is your special day. You should have the people that you want standing up for you, and standing beside you. The fact is that if somebody else doesn’t like this decision, and they get mad to the point where they want nothing to do with it, you can’t really consider them a real friend anyway.
If the bride and groom are not careful, the number of bridesmaids and groomsmen can grow to large numbers – all because the bride and groom want to include, or feel forced to include, everyone that they consider a friend. You can’t allow this to happen. You have to pick an affordable number of bridesmaids and groomsmen, and stick with it.
If you really have no preferences as to who the best man and matron of honor are, let them pick straws. Let them know that they are all equally important to you, and that you just can’t decide. Also, let them know that no matter who is chosen as the matron of honor and the best man, it is not an indication that these people are liked or loved more than others.